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The Tyranny of the Queen Bee

Tue, 05 Mar 2013 08:11:50 -0500

The Tyranny of the Queen Bee:

I have been on both sides of the coin and I feel like I make the same mistakes….

Acknowledgement is the first step to correcting it tho.

Photo

Tue, 05 Mar 2013 07:50:24 -0500

"It’s easy to pretend ‘to be fierce and fearless because living your truth takes real courage. Real..."

Mon, 04 Mar 2013 13:00:00 -0500

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It’s easy to pretend ‘to be fierce and fearless because living your truth takes real courage. Real fearless and fierce women admit mistakes and they work to correct them. We stand up and we use our voices for things other than self promotion. We don’t stand by and let racism and sexism and homophobia run rapid on our watch.

Real fearless and fierce women complement other women and we recognize and embrace that their shine in no way diminishes our light and that it actually makes our light shine brighter.

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- Gabrielle Union

35 and still bad to the bone…. Liya Kebede photographed by...

Fri, 01 Mar 2013 10:49:22 -0500

35 and still bad to the bone….

Liya Kebede photographed by Mikael Jansson for an editorial in Vogue Japan, ‘The Vanishing Underground’.

‘Happy Thursday…..’ Spread. Your. Hands. and...

Thu, 28 Feb 2013 13:05:39 -0500

‘Happy Thursday…..’ Spread. Your. Hands. and Leggo…..

I prayed for change, so I changed my mind. I prayed for guidance and learned to trust myself. I...

Tue, 26 Feb 2013 21:50:00 -0500

I prayed for change, so I changed my mind.
I prayed for guidance and learned to trust myself.
I prayed for happiness and realized I am not my ego.
I prayed for peace and learned to accept others unconditionally.
I prayed for abundance and realized my doubt kept it out.
I prayed for wealth and realized it is my health.
I prayed for a miracle and realized I am the miracle.
I prayed for a soul mate and realized I am the One.
I prayed for love and realized it’s always knocking, but I have to let it in.

Jackson Kiddard

lilesbella: Best photo from the Best Actress...

Tue, 26 Feb 2013 15:03:00 -0500

lilesbella:

Best photo from the Best Actress winner

JLaw…. My Type of Classy Chick!

Random Thought of a Sleepless Night

Mon, 25 Feb 2013 23:27:00 -0500

I don’t know which is harder in the Caribbean — being young or being a woman. Fortunately for me, I am both. So I don’t really have a choice.

Onward, soldier….

Chanting ‘Happiness is a choice today….’ Happy Last Week of February!

Mon, 25 Feb 2013 15:28:43 -0500

Chanting ‘Happiness is a choice today….’

Happy Last Week of February!

caribbeancivilisation: St. John’s Cathedral also known as...

Fri, 22 Feb 2013 13:57:29 -0500

caribbeancivilisation:

St. John’s Cathedral also known as the St. John the Divine, the Cathedral Church of the Diocese of North Eastern Caribbean and Aruba, is an Anglican church perched on a hilltop in St. John’s, Antigua and Barbuda. It is the seat of the Diocese of the North East Caribbean and Aruba in the Church in the Province of the West Indies.

The present cathedral with its imposing white twin towers was built on a fossilized reef, in 1845, and is now in its third incarnation, asearthquakes in 1683 and in 1745 destroyed the previous structures. The iron gates on the south face of the church are flanked by pillars displaying lead Biblical figures of St John the Divine and St John the Baptist. They were taken by HMS Temple in 1756, from a French ship destined for Martinique.

Happy Friday, Ladies

Fri, 22 Feb 2013 13:40:15 -0500

Happy Friday, Ladies

lilesbella: This from a man who was a womanizer….meh cool quote...

Fri, 22 Feb 2013 11:51:22 -0500

lilesbella:

This from a man who was a womanizer….meh cool quote anyway

Love taught me who was the boss…..

Fri, 22 Feb 2013 09:44:26 -0500

Love taught me who was the boss…..

Chuckle for the day…

Thu, 21 Feb 2013 15:43:48 -0500

Chuckle for the day…

25 Things You Don’t Have To Justify To Anyone

Thu, 21 Feb 2013 14:27:07 -0500

A nice reminder.

1. Your job. Yes, even if you’re working something that other people condescendingly term “not a real job,” such as retail or service. If you have a job of any kind in this economy, you’ve already won.

2. Whether or not you have debt. If you managed to get out of your education debt-free, that doesn’t mean that your life is a financial walk in the park that you constantly have to be apologizing for. If you are in debt, it doesn’t mean you got a “worthless” degree and now deserve to be shamed for struggling to find work after you were convinced by your school that you were making a good decision.

3. The kind of food you enjoy eating, or why you enjoy eating. (No matter how “uncultured” or “boring” or “gross” someone else might deem your favorite food.)

4. Your decision to have children, or not have them, or to not be sure if you even want them.

5. Your dislike for marriage as an institution — and even if this one day changes, you don’t have to justify having grown as a person and moved into a new point of view. No one should be telling you “I told you so” over something as enormous as your decision to commit for life to another person.

6. Your sexuality, or your desire to experiment with it. You are allowed to have “phases” or “try things out” or be “confused,” and can take as much time as you want figuring it out.

7. Your gender presentation.

8. Your income level, and what you can and cannot afford. If you are having trouble keeping up with friends because you are not able to spend as much as them, there is no reason to risk financial ruin to try and keep up appearances.

9. Your body. The only person whom you need to talk to about with it is your doctor; everyone else can else can go kick rocks.

10. Whether or not you want to go out on a weekend night, or ten weekend nights in a row. The amount of time you spend in a bar or at a club does not directly correlate with how cool or worthy a person you are.

11. Your relationship status. If you’re single and happy, that’s great. If you’re in a relationship and happy, that’s great. If you’re either of those and not happy, you are more than allowed to be, and it’s no one’s business how you should “fix” it unless you ask them for their advice.

12. How many friends you have. One is enough. A hundred is enough. And there is no need to falsely upgrade acquaintances to “friend” status in your mind simply to fill out the ranks. A true friend is rare, and we don’t need to make it a competition for who has the most.

13. How much you drink when you go out, or if you drink at all, or why you choose not to drink if you do.

14. What kind of music you enjoy listening to.

15. What kind of an education you have or don’t have, or if you intend to go back and finish what you’ve started. If continuing your studies is something you want to do, good, but don’t be forced into saying that you want it just because it’s what people expect of you.

16. What you happen to be turned on by. If you like slash fiction, you like slash fiction. If you like people recording videos of themselves popping balloons, that’s awesome for you. It’s all good, and as long as you’re not hurting anyone, have at it.

17. Whether or not you know to cook, even if you’re a woman who “should” know how to do those things.

18. If you stay at home to raise your children, or if you hire someone to help you do so because you have a full-time career. Neither of those choices are more or less feminist, no matter what Elizabeth Wurtzel tells you.

19. How many people you have had sex with.

20. Whether or not you are a virgin, and whether or not you want to wait for marriage to lose said virginity.

21. Whether or not you believe in God, and what you think God actually is. (As long as you’re not imposing any of your beliefs on others, in which case we’d have a bit of a problem. But I trust that you’re cool and wouldn’t do that.)

22. Who you voted for and why. If you want to talk about it, you’re free to. But no one should ever make you feel like you have to tell them.

23. If you have sex on a first date, if you kiss on a first date, or if you won’t even hold hands on a first date. You’re allowed to do whatever you like when you’ve just met a new potential suitor.

24. Whether or not you choose to use dating websites.

25. Not knowing exactly what you want to be when you grow up, even if many people would already put you in the category of “grown up.” If you are considering going back to school, or changing careers, or moving, or starting a family, or doing charity work — it’s all good. And none of it has to be followed up with a longwinded explanation about why it’s a good idea and they should believe in you. If you need to justify what makes you happy to someone in your life, perhaps you should ask yourself why you even care about their opinion in the first place.

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"The universe may not always play fair…but at least it’s got a hell of a sense of humor."

Thu, 21 Feb 2013 13:51:31 -0500

“The universe may not always play fair…but at least it’s got a hell of a sense of humor.”

- Carrie Bradshaw

"Forget this shit I need a new hustle A little bit of everything, the new improved Russell I say that..."

Thu, 21 Feb 2013 13:48:35 -0500

“Forget this shit I need a new hustle
A little bit of everything, the new improved Russell
I say that reluctantly cause I do struggle
As you see I can’t leave so I do love you….”

- Jay-Z

The Circus of Fashion

Wed, 20 Feb 2013 21:40:00 -0500

The Circus of Fashion:

‘There is a genuine difference between the stylish and the showoffs — and that is the current dilemma….’

Has street style fashion and blogging diminished the chic and intrigue of fashion? — I think it has….

Great Article in T Magazine

"After all, seasons change. So do cities. People come into your life, and people go. But it’s..."

Wed, 20 Feb 2013 17:56:58 -0500

“After all, seasons change. So do cities. People come into your life, and people go. But it’s comforting to know the ones you love are always in your heart. And…if you are very lucky…a plane ride away. - Carrie Bradshaw”

- Carrie Bradshaw (via whatwouldcarriesay)

Cool Graphic of the Creative Director of American Vogue with the...

Wed, 20 Feb 2013 15:18:03 -0500

Cool Graphic of the Creative Director of American Vogue with the amazing eye, incomparable Ms. Grace Coddington.